Are We Better Than This? Penn State.

*in case you don’t want to watch the video, here’s a sorta transcript:

I had planned to post a very different video blog today, but in light of all that has happened over at Penn State, I couldn’t help but change what I had to say this morning.

People are outraged that this horrific situation happened at Penn State and rightfully so.  But I’m not surprised.  I’m not surprised it happened at all.  And I’m not surprised that people didn’t do anything for so long, and when they did, they did the bare minimum.

I’m not surprised because I see it every day.  We are so self-absorbed as a society now a days, that when something bad does happen on the street or at an event or there’s a fight at a bar – people’s first reaction isn’t to get involved to stop it — No, most people’s first reaction nowadays is to break out their  iPhones and film it!

This lack of community, this apathy, this fear of getting involved is dangerous, it’s killing us — its destroying us.  And it’s a shame.

I think it’s easy to sit here and be appalled by people’s inaction after all these years — that people knew children were being raped by a 50 year old man.  Don’t get me wrong, it’s friggin’ outrageous on so many levels.  But do we honestly believe that when the big thing happens, when the big emergency happens that we’ll be able to break out our Superman cape and help someone in distress when we won’t even get involved in what we could call the “little” things in comparison?   We won’t  even help out our next door neighbor or the homeless guy on the street or assist the little old lady with her groceries.  All out of being self-absorbed or just not wanting to get involved.  Hell, who are we kidding? -most of us don’t even know our next door neighbors nowadays.

I think it’s easy to be outraged.  Hindsight is 20/20 after all.  The hard thing to do is to look in the mirror and ask ourselves, “what have I done to help someone today?”

But we CAN change it.  That’s the good news.  We can always be better than we used to be.  “When we know better, we do better,” to steal a line from the great poet Maya Angelou.  And that’s my hope.

That as all of this comes to fruition, as all this unravels,  that we find a way to become a better people. We have to, we’re better than this.

On a side note, to all the Veterans out there — much love and peace to you, always.  Thank you for your service.

Till next week then.

Three Things. . . TCML

*in case you don’t want to watch the video, here’s a sorta transcript:

Three things…That Changed My Life (TCML):

Okay, that sounds a little over-dramatic, but honestly, baby steps.  These are three baby steps I took to get where I am right now in my life and I can honestly tell you, I’m the happiest I’ve ever been!  I’m not even exaggerating.  I tracked every step for the past year to monitor what worked and what didn’t work and now, I want to share those things that did…so here goes three of them:

1)     When you wake up in the morning, DON’T grab your cell phone.  Everyone does it and I’m telling you – if you can break this habit, it will change the way your morning begins.  At the very least I was shocked at how hard a habit it  was to break.  Now, I don’t even look at my cell phone for the first hour after I wake and sometimes I don’t even look at it till after I write.  Try it. You’ll be shocked at how hard it is to do — but once you do it, you’ll start your morning off so differently!

2)    Instead of using your cell in your car, try listening to music!  Besides the idea that it really is dangerous to drive and talk/text and all that which I won’t rehash here, the truth is, if you can just listen to music while you’re in your car instead of taking business calls and such, you will have a wonderful place to distress!  Everyone is always talking about how they have no time for themselves, well this is the easiest way to enjoy what I like to call “ME” time!   And it’s so old school — when was the last time you just sang your heart out to some old song on the radio?  I’m telling you — this is the easiest, cheapest and most fun way to distress — and you don’t need to FIND the time — you just have to turn the music on and enjoy!

3)    You’ve all heard this one before, but I actually did it,  and it  does works.  I didn’t believe it would, but, it did and it does.    Everyday look into the mirror and tell yourself that you are beautiful, remarkable and here for a purpose.  I never really believed that talking to myself in the mirror could change something about me, but I’ve done it, I still do it and it helps me start my day in a positive way. It empowers me.  It reminds me.  This one you’ll just have to trust me on.  Try it every day for two weeks till you really believe it — I’m telling you…trust me.

Again, it’s all baby steps.  But now that I’m finally where I want to be in my life (and loving it!)  – I’m positive that some things that I changed in my life in the past year worked brilliantly  – now it may not work for you, but it JUST might!   At the very least, it can’t hurt!

Until next week my peeps!

Cheers and one love.

Carmen