How to Become a Writer… a Better Writer #AuthorToolboxBlogHop

I was a dancer as a little kid.  I rehearsed early in the morning and after-school till late at night. I was diligent and passionate about performing and doing a fantastic job. There was also something innate about my dancing. I had to do it daily. It was a part of me.  I was pretty famous too – Well, I thought I was famous in the world, but in fact, I was just a well-known entity in my neighborhood, in my community.  Ha!  When I found out that my “fame” wasn’t world-wide I still rehearsed diligently – maybe even more so. Early in the morning before school, after-school, weekends… I developed a habit of working those muscles daily and always finding ways to improve – fame or the lack thereof, had nothing to do with it!    

Writing is the same way for me.  I don’t dance “professionally” anymore so writing has taken over that habit-forming rehearsal space.  I’m diligent about my writing practice. I write every morning in a hand-written journal, while I drink my coffee. I write during the day, generally for work.  And then, at night, I work on my stories or my exercises. My next work. My next project. Rehearsal, rehearsal, rehearsal.  The practice of writing. It’s part of the process, the habit of working to become a better writer.   

And just like dancing, writing takes many different forms. I’m great at some types of writing and not-so-great at others, but I’m always in the pursuit of getting better.  I love writing content – especially in first person. I love writing stories, blog posts… however, I also enjoy the struggle of writing copy for a product I have no interest in – it reminds me of ballet class. I hated ballet with all my heart as a dancer, even though I loved watching it. As most everyone knows, if you’re going to call yourself a “dancer” you better at least know the basics of ballet and find a way to push on through, even if you don’t like it!  Writing copy for a product I don’t care about is almost like that.  A good example: I wrote copy for an electrician’s website recently. As much as I didn’t care that much about the subject matter in general, it was like that ballet class – I appreciated the work I had to do and ultimately, I got through it and did it brilliantly.  But only because I’d “rehearsed” my writing over and over again. When you practice your craft and you’re thrown a new category or style, you can easily maneuver your way through it because the basics are so innate — they’re a part of you. So much so, that when given a challenge, you’re always up for the task!  I may know absolutely nothing about how to be an electrician. But, I know enough about copy and how to write to sell his work – it’s easy enough to navigate and get it done!

So, why am I bringing all this up?  Well, I get this question a lot, especially after a speaking event about how I wrote my book CANELA. Everyone thinks they can sit down and just start writing their book. They think I might have a secret formula on how to do it — How do I find the time? How did I even start?  How do I find work as a writer?  Most people want to write their own story  — surely, anyone can hire a ghost writer – that’s one way to go, but most people fancy themselves a writer.  But what they don’t realize is, like anything else you want to excel at, you have to put in the work. Writing is NOT EASY! Yesterday, someone actually explained to me that they were planning to write their book and have it published before the Christmas holiday so they could give out as a gift.  They wanted my insight into how to make that happen.  Christmas is only four months away! WHAT?!?!?!

Well, suffice it to say, I told that person they should definitely consider hiring a ghost-writer, make it a real short story of just one moment in their life and call it a day.  But for everyone else who is serious about writing – whether it be your own story or just getting better as a writer, here’s my advice about how to start and how to keep your writing strong, fresh and ready for the next challenge:

Write every single day about anything and everything!  This will help you find and develop your voice. It doesn’t matter if you do it with a pen, on a computer or just for a few minutes a day. Rehearse every day. Write. Dance. Write. Repeat.  

Think about moments in your life and write those first. Don’t worry about the book and it’s beginning, middle and end just yet.  If you’re just starting out, or if you’re just stuck on where to start, just jot down the story of you and your brother taking a sleigh ride that winter when he broke his leg. Or write about your dog when he was a puppy and you first brought him home. It doesn’t have to be long at all – a few sentences. Just start the process of thinking something and writing it down. Thinking about dancing isn’t the same as actually getting up, putting on the music and gettin’ down. Same with writing. Stop just thinking about it writing that book and instead, write that thought down NOW!

When you don’t know what to write about, write about the first thing you see: Currently, I’m looking at my lamp. I think I need to change the bulb because it flickers every-so-often. I keep meaning to buy a bulb, but I always forget. I’m going to write that down in my grocery list right now! When you practice regularly, you can easily find a way to express yourself on paper.  That’s the goal. It’s like dancing – the more you do it, the more comfortable it is to just go with it and not think too deeply about HOW to do it, it just starts to flow.

Stretch your writing skills:  Here’s a fun way to do this. Put down your pen or close your laptop.  Watch TV.  Yup, I know, trust me. Watch TV, wait for the next commercial. Any commercial.  Before the commercial really starts, turn off the TV.  Write about that product and try and sell it through your writing in a goofy way. Be fun with it, play around a bit. It really helps – and hey, you may be a copywriter and not even know it – but walla! This is another way to change up your writing rehearsal time.  If you normally write stories, try a script, or a poem or write a speech.  All of these take different types of skills as a writer and regardless of whether you do it professionally or not, it’s stretching that writing tool. Just like when I took TAP as a dancer – I’m not a tap-dancer, but I surely can tap if I have too. I never knew that, until I forced myself to try…   

Be comfortable with your own voice. This will take time.  I know a lot of people are advocates of reading as much as possible in order to become a better writer – eeeh… I’m not sure how I feel about that. Don’t get me wrong, I watched other dancers growing up and admired them, but it was the music and the constant battle to be a better dancer and finding my authentic style that made me great. So, of course everyone should read books – I love to read – but I don’t think that’s the ultimate reason why I became a decent writer. Actually, writing daily makes me a decent writer. Learning what my voice “sounded” like on paper made me a more confident writer.  Being a confident writer, makes me a viable writer worthy of getting paid and more importantly, being “seen”! So, practice that writing and get comfortable with your own style and voice on paper!

If you want to be a writer, you need to write. If you want to be a decent or great writer, then you need to put in the rehearsal, the work. It’s not any different than any other profession. Writing is a skill that takes a lot of time and effort to perfect. Maybe you’re a born writer like Misty Copeland is a “born” ballet dancer?  Maybe it’s an innate talent? Writing/Dancing comes easy to you?  But know that Misty rehearses every day.  I rehearsed every day as a dancer and now I practice every day as a writer. The greats, especially the innately gifted, always rehearse and refine their gifts.  Writing is no different.  If you want to write, then sit down and start writing!  Do the work. Rehearse, rehearse, rehearse!  There are no short cuts success.  Period.

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31 thoughts on “How to Become a Writer… a Better Writer #AuthorToolboxBlogHop

    • Good copy is something I find joy in as well! It’s kinda cool that writing is writing is writing, right? It’s like Ballet, Jazz, Hip-Hop, all dancing, but some doing one better than others. I love good copy. And boy, bad writing is BAD but especially “visible” when it’s copy. YIKES. Ha! Thanks Mint! Sweet night or morning to you!

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  1. I’m constantly using comparisons to physical activity when I talk about writing. Why are there so many parallels? I love your analogy to rehearsal and your explanation of the need to embrace rehearsal over becoming famous.

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  2. I know dancers put in incredible amounts of time and work and know the meaning of the word, commitment. It’s awesome how you brought that attitude to writing. I’ve encountered many ‘writers’ who think those of us who have publishing credits know a ‘secret’ and don’t believe the simple answer that the secret is hard work.

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  3. Thanks for sharing your experience as a dancer and writer. I love the comparison of writing with sports. Although they are so different, I believe the process to improve in either one is the same: practice. Many expect that they can come into and write a bestselling novel (ie. win a championship). But I think, in order to do that you need to do different types of writing: training/rehearsal-style writing; regular season writing which you submit to publications; and your championship work, which you take everything you learned in your rehearsal and seasonal writing and apply it to a bigger piece.

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  4. One of my favorite writing exercises was for the facilitator to give us a seemingly random phrase and 10 minutes to write whatever came to mind, no preparation, no requirement to editc, just “crank something out.”
    More recently I’ve taken to doing the same thing using nonlyric music. I’ll find soundtracks to movies, shows, and games I have never seen, and try to write a scene or narrative to match the music. It’s especially interesting when the song feels overly cyclical, like one of those elevator melodies that could be looped indefinitely. Highly repetitive, and yet somehow one must find some kind of conflict and progression.
    I remember hearing one author say that for every novel or story that they publish, they write anywhere from 1 to 4. They had perhaps a dozen novels published at the time, and far more that either were rejected, or were not meant for public eyes.
    I think that’s a very helpful perspective. Instead of trying to perfect one story, write several, and see which one is already strong (although of course it will still need a lot of work, cause they always do).

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    • Adam! That’s a great perspective with music. As a first time author, I promise you I did NOT write four novels! Hahahaha! But, I do get your point and I’ve heard that as well. I wrote letters that then became chapters and each “chapter” was written in draft form maybe 8 times before I felt comfortable with it. Don’t get me started on how many times it went back and forth with my editor. So, maybe I did write four novels in a way? I never thought that writing music might be exactly the same kind of thing… but of course… it makes so much sense! Nice to “meet” you Adam! 🙂

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  5. It’s probably going to be so much easier for me to think about a first draft as a kind of rehearsal. Thanks for a great post, and I adore adore adore your pictures!!! You’re famous to me now. 🙂

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