It’s the negativity for me.
It seems like a constant. Is this who we’re becoming? I really fear it’s who we are now and it needs to stop – change course.
You walk down the street and people don’t make eye contact, rarely say hello. If you’re driving no one let’s another person by, and if they do – we’re shocked – not enough to wave and say thank you, but shocked, nonetheless. If someone holds a door for another person or God-forbid someone helps an elderly person across the street, someone films it and posts about it on FB and calls them a hero. We’ve become ridiculous.
We’re so starved for just basic human decency and yet we don’t even notice how harsh we’ve become to each other, to kids, to ourselves regularly.
I just posted a tweet yesterday after reading way too many comments about the sighting of Tom Cruise at a baseball game between the Giants and Dodgers. Most every comment was questioning whether it was him or not, but mostly it was an exercise in cruelty that if it was him, he somehow had let himself go…
For people who don’t know – Tom Cruise is 59 years old.
Now, on the one hand, I guess I can say “bravo” – finally there is some equality – men are being abused and criticized for their looks as they’re getting older too – just as women always have? No, that’s not the way it should go! My goodness.
But the truth is, it’s a bigger problem than just that. Sadly, we’re becoming a crueler kind of people. We have lost all sense of kindness on a regular basis that when we do see it, we film it, tweet it, Facebook it and make a huge deal about it. Honestly, it’s so sad. Watching so many people hungry for human connection, for love and yet, unable to see how easily they contribute to all the nasty negativity themselves.
You can change this. I can change this. Let’s start by doing this today.
Here are a few EASY tips to start practicing on the regular:
Smile more. Smile to a stranger at the grocery store. Smile to another person in the car lane next to you. Smile while you’re working out. Smile when you’re dealing with a customer service person, on the phone or in person. Smile even when you’re alone. Smile as much as possible. The way to stop having a world of negativity is to start generating joy yourself! Smiling is the easiest way to do this!
Start practicing basic kindness. Hold the door open for someone and let them walk in first with no expectations. Say something lovely to someone on social media – “Great pic with that fabulous outfit! You look amazing!” Of if you’re brave enough, say it to them in person!
Start thinking about your own manners. Do you even have them? Do you even know what they are? Do you thank people for the services they provide to you? Not just by paying them, but by actually saying “Thank you”. How gracious are you really? Do you say “Good morning” or “Excuse me”? Manners really are just a reflection of your compassion and empathy for another person. Let me say that again – Having manners has nothing to do with being bougie or proper and everything to do with being more concerned about how you treat another person. This is the bedrock of being a kind person. Oh, and a note to parents: stop telling your kids to do these things when you yourself are the worst reflection of having basic manners. I see this all the time. It truly boggles my mind. Kids will follow your behavior, not your orders.
That’s how it starts. With you. With me. With a smile.
Now go out there and start spreading some joy y’all. Let’s make this world a better place! I still have faith we can get this done!
With love and always a smile,